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On the difference between Good Dogs and Dogs That Need a Newspaper Smack. (via Sindelókë)

This is probably the best explanation of privilege I’ve ever read. All I can say is read it and absorb it.

Today I’m feeling 101-y, I guess, so let’s talk about privilege. It’s a weird word, isn’t it? A common one in my circles, it’s one of the most basic, everyday concepts in social activism, we have lots of unhelpful snarky little phrases we like to use like “check your privilege” and a lot of our dialog conventions are built around a mutual agreement (or at least a mutual attempt at agreement) on who has privilege when and how to compensate for tha … Read More

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The power and privilege of words

I had my second celebrity encounter on Twitter recently. (I mentioned in my What color is ‘flesh’? post that I got a message from Sophia Bush.) My latest reply was from Seamus Dever, who plays Detective Kevin Ryan on ABC’s “Castle.” He tweeted “Counting the trannies on Santa Monica Blvd. Working on those night moves.” When I read it I was very disappointed that someone who espoused liberal causes did not know that “trannies” is a slur and an offensive word to call someone who is transsexual or transgender. I replied telling him that and asked him not to use it. Then he responded, saying, “so what do you call a transsexual prostitute?”

It sounded like the set-up to a joke, but it wasn’t funny to me at all. One of my first thoughts was, “Why do you have to call them anything? They’re human beings. They’re sex workers. What’s wrong with ‘transsexual prostitute’? Why do you have to shorten that to anything?” That wasn’t what I said to him, but I might have if I’d had more than 140 characters. Instead I said that “trans man” and “trans woman” were the preferred terms, and pointed him to a blog post about why “tranny” is considered hateful. I also thanked him for asking what the proper term is, and told him I’d pointed it out in the first place because I know that he knows the power words can hold. As an actor, Dever knows how changing one or two words can completely alter a scene.

I often see and hear people use words that I wish they wouldn’t — “retarded,” “gay” as a pejorative, etc. I myself have trouble finding words to describe something that’s out there without using a word like “crazy” or “nuts.” And of course I don’t point out to everyone that their language is offensive, but I did to Seamus and Sophia because they both seem like people who wouldn’t knowingly use hurtful words. And a lot of the time, people don’t know that their words are offensive. But if I were carelessly throwing around language that furthered the oppression of a marginalized group, I’d want someone to call me on it. Really, the only reason you need to omit a particular word from your vocabulary is that someone asks you to.

Recognize your privilege

One of the ways we can work toward a less racist, sexist, classist, ableist society is by recognizing the privilege we benefit from every day. For white people, most of that privilege is unconscious, and it takes someone pointing it out to recognize it. And once we do, it’s not always easy to give up.

I attended a sociology lecture in college where the speaker called a tall white male student up to the stage. She asked if he valued his height. (He was 6-foot-plus, she was about 5 feet.) He wasn’t sure what to say, but then she asked if he would rather be his height or her height. Put that way, it’s easier to see the privilege many people take for granted.

White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack” by Peggy McIntosh is a famous piece of work in the humanities. In it, she lists the benefits white people experience every day simply for being white.

“I think whites are carefully taught not to recognize white privilege, as males are taught not to recognize male privilege. So I have begun in an untutored way to ask what it is like to have white privilege. I have come to see white privilege as an invisible package of unearned assets that I can count on cashing in each day, but about which I was ‘meant’ to remain oblivious. White privilege is like an invisible weightless knapsack of special provisions, maps, passports, codebooks, visas, clothes, tools and blank checks. … My schooling followed the pattern my colleague Elizabeth Minnich has pointed out: whites are taught to think of their lives as morally neutral, normative, and average, and also ideal, so that when we work to benefit others, this is seen as work that will allow them to be more like us.”

Tim Wise put forth a thought experiment earlier this year. He asked the public to imagine what would happen if instead of a majority white movement (the tea party) criticizing and threatening a black president, a majority black group were criticizing and threatening a white president. The reaction wouldn’t be so nonchalant, would it? He says:

“Protest is only seen as fundamentally American when those who have long had the luxury of seeing themselves as prototypically American engage in it. When the dangerous and dark ‘other’ does so, however, it isn’t viewed as normal or natural, let alone patriotic.”

Terry Keleher, as a white man raising an adopted son, who is black, has noticed that people react differently to him when he is accompanied by his son than when he is alone. He wants to prepare his son for how to respond to situations that may arise with teachers, employers, pedestrians and police officers, and he doesn’t think the way to do it is to pretend race doesn’t exist:

“Instead of colorblind parenting … we need to embrace racially conscientious parenting, where we prepare our children and ourselves to deal with reality so we can change it. It means choosing to become consciously and actively part of the solution instead of unconsciously and passively part of the problem.”

There’s more than one type of privilege, and a lot of them intersect. Michael Kimmel, a professor of sociology at SUNY Stonybrook, has studied masculinity for decades and the invisible privilege that comes along with it. Chloe at Feministing writes about his work in Michael Kimmel on male entitlement, anger and invisible privilege. What has stuck in my mind ever since reading it is this:

“One of the great achievements of feminism, he said, was to make women’s gender visible. Most women today understand that it is possible for them to be victims of gender-based discrimination, and most men are aware of that phenomenon, too. When a woman looks in the mirror, Kimmel said, they see a woman. But when a man – a white straight middle class man, at least – looks in the mirror, he just sees a person. The assumption of white straight middle class man as standard and objective, as the norm, in our culture, means that white straight middle class men have no reason to think particularly hard about race, class or gender, since everything around them confirms that they are normal. Women, people of color, queer people or poor people, those who don’t see themselves depicted as average members of our society, are aware of that dissonance every single moment of the day.

“In other words, privilege – in this case, the privilege of being assumed to be the best possible representative of your culture – is invisible. Men, Kimmel said, don’t think about being men in the same way that women think about being women, or think about being white in the same way that people of color think about being people of color. They don’t believe they have biases or prejudices that affect their experience of the world; it’s for this reason that when a Latina was nominated for the Supreme Court, it was assumed that she would bring biases and prejudices with her. It seemingly never occurred to the largely white, largely male Senate that questioned her at length about those biases that straight white men, who comprise the SCOTUS and much of the Senate, also inevitably have biases. In their mind, they were objective and neutral.”

Kimmel also points out that it is only when white men start losing their privilege–for example, as more women are appointed to the Supreme Court–that they become aware of their entitlement and protest losing it.

So what we have to do to eliminate the privilege inherent in a racist, sexist, classist and ableist society is point it out. Don’t sit back and be silent because it’s to your advantage to ignore discrimination against others. Be willing to let go of some of your privilege so we can work toward a day when we will all be on a level playing field.

Edited Dec. 24 to add: Rick found this great essay on how to deal with your privilege: White Privilege: 10 Ways to be an Ally